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The willpower myth that still runs too many South African homes
For years the public story about alcoholism was simple, remove the drink, sweat it out in detox, then choose to behave like a normal person. If you could do that, you were “strong”, if you could not, you were “weak”, and families often treated that label like it was a medical diagnosis. The damage of that belief is still everywhere, in the way people speak about alcoholics at braais, in the way employers whisper about “problems”, in the way partners hide bottles and think they are being helpful, in the way parents beg, threaten, and bargain like the right speech will switch someone off. This myth also gives society a nice excuse, because if willpower is the cure, then the rest of us do not have to learn anything uncomfortable about addiction, trauma, mental health, or the ways alcohol becomes a socially accepted coping tool.
What makes the willpower story so addictive is that it feels moral. It sounds clean, stop drinking, sort yourself out, do the right thing, become someone we can respect again. The alcoholic then becomes a public performance, behave and you get love, slip and you get disgust, and you learn quickly that honesty costs you. That is how secrecy grows, and secrecy is one of the most consistent fuels of addiction, because it protects the drinking and isolates the person who is already drowning.
Stigma turned alcoholics into outcasts
The old world treated alcoholics like failed humans. Communities shunned people, families hid them, some were dumped into institutions that were never designed for addiction, and the message was clear, you are not one of us until you prove you are safe. Even now, many people will say they “support mental health” while speaking about alcoholism as if it is a character defect, and they do not realise how often those two conversations are connected. Alcoholism is a mental health issue, a behavioural issue, a family system issue, and in many cases a trauma issue, yet we still talk about it like it is simply a lack of discipline.
This stigma does not only hurt the alcoholic, it also shapes the family. Partners learn to manage appearances, parents learn to lie to neighbours, siblings learn to carry resentment, children learn to become adults too early, and nobody says the truth out loud because it feels like betraying the family name. When people ask why alcoholics are so secretive, start there, because secrecy is often a survival strategy in a culture that punishes honesty.
The brain disease idea is useful, but only if we use it properly
Modern thinking recognises that addiction changes the brain. Craving, compulsion, impaired control, stress sensitivity, reward pathways that get hijacked, these are not poetic ideas, they are real patterns that show up in behaviour. The brain disease model helps because it moves us away from pure moral judgement and into something more accurate, alcohol dependence is not solved by shouting and threats, and it is not solved by love alone either. It requires intervention that matches the complexity of what is happening.
The danger is when the brain disease label becomes an excuse for passivity, either from the alcoholic who says, I cannot help it, or from the family who says, it is a disease so we must accept whatever happens. A disease can be treatable while still requiring personal responsibility. If someone has hypertension, they still have to take medication, change diet, attend appointments, and stop pretending it will fix itself. Alcoholism is similar, compassion does not mean enabling, and understanding does not mean lowering the bar until there is no bar at all.
Holistic treatment should be practical
When people hear holistic, they often imagine incense, vague spirituality, and inspirational posters. Real holistic treatment is not airy, it is specific. It means medical stabilisation when needed, psychological assessment, proper therapy, group work that has structure, family involvement, relapse prevention planning, and a clear aftercare system that does not rely on hope. It means addressing sleep, nutrition, movement, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, work stress, and the habits that keep someone stuck in their own head.
Holistic also means telling the truth about risk. If someone has a history of seizures, severe depression, suicidal thinking, or psychosis, then therapy alone is not enough, they need medical oversight. If someone drinks to switch off panic, then you treat the panic, not only the drinking. If a person is leaving rehab and going back to the same house where every weekend is a binge, then you plan for that reality, you do not pretend motivation will beat environment.
The Minnesota Model
The Minnesota Model grew into a prevailing approach, blending professional treatment with the 12 step framework and the idea of a structured, supportive recovery community. At its best it is balanced, it recognises that peer support matters, that honesty matters, that service matters, and that addiction is not cured by isolation. At its worst it becomes a template, where facilities repeat the language without doing the deeper clinical work, because it is cheaper to run endless generic groups than to provide skilled individual therapy and proper psychiatric input.
A good programme is not a brand name, it is a plan. It should be able to explain what happens each day, what the goals are, how progress is measured, and how the patient transitions into aftercare. If a rehab cannot describe its treatment process in plain language, then it is likely running on vibes, and vibes do not hold when cravings hit and real life pressures return.
AA is not a replacement for treatment
AA contains a lot of cognitive and behavioural change, even if it is not labelled in clinical language. You can hear it in the focus on triggers, honesty, inventory, amends, routine, accountability, and changing thinking patterns. That said, AA is not designed to diagnose mental illness, treat trauma, manage medication, or provide a full clinical plan. Some people need much more than meetings, especially those with severe depression, bipolar disorder, PTSD, or a long history of relapse with escalating risk.
A solid approach is integration. Use professional treatment to stabilise, assess, and build skills, then use peer support as ongoing reinforcement in the real world. Therapy helps you understand patterns and build strategies, meetings help you stay connected when motivation dips, and aftercare ties it together so the person is not thrown back into old environments with no structure.
Start building a plan that matches reality
Alcoholism is not solved by shame, and it is not solved by detox alone. It is treated through a combination of medical care when needed, real therapy, structured community, honest support, and practical aftercare that continues long after the first month of sobriety. The Minnesota Model and AA both brought valuable tools into the world, and we should be honest about their strengths while also recognising where professional care is essential.
If alcohol is running your home, or if you are the one drinking and you cannot stop despite consequences, do not waste another year on the willpower myth. Get a proper assessment, choose a programme that can explain its method clearly, and build a support system that lasts outside the clinic walls, because recovery is not a speech, it is a structure that holds when life gets loud.